Friday, August 3, 2012

Erotic play, useful or repulsive?

In Aldous Huxley's Brave New World, the children have a time set aside just for play. This is referred to as erotic play, and the children are then advised to touch each other and explore their private areas on their bodies and the bodies of others. This is mentioned in the beginning of chapter 3, where Huxley writes, "Outside, in the garden, it was playtime. Naked in the warm June sunshine, six or seven hundred little boys and girls were running with shrill yells over the lawns..."
Although this is something that many would find repulsive in our society, I do find advantages in this idea. We are not exposed to anything sexual and do not understand our own body parts throughout our childhood.
Today, I find it a shame that we do not properly educate our youth about sex. I did experience some sex education in the 4th grade, but most of what we learned was vague and pertained more to the experience of puberty than sex itself. I do not believe sex is a matter that should be promoted as common and necessary for youth, but it should not be something that is frowned upon and banned from any type of educational subjects. When we are educated with scare tactics to stay away from sex, we find it hard to ask important questions about sex and how it should properly and more importantly, safely work. In a very technologically advanced society, we should have better resources and opportunities to learn about how to practice sex safely.
I find it very common that we are also sexist about sexual education. Boys learn about their bodies and how their sex organs work at a young age and understand very well how sex should feel for them. However, many girls go through their whole adolescent years without understanding where their own sex organs are even located. I find it ridiculous that we are not taught about our own bodies. Never once in school was I taught about anything on my body that wasn't anatomically equal to males.
I haven't taken Health yet because I transferred late into AP Human Geography during our freshman year and never had room to fit it into my schedule. However, Health is a class that is taken when we are fourteen years old. I can guarantee you that there are students who have had sexual experiences before that, and have often wondered about sex as well. In the civilized society that is portrayed in Brave New World, women such as Lenina are open to sex and clearly understand the benefits of it and the contraceptives necessary to live without having a child.
Many of us grow up in an environment where the topic of sex is taboo. Religions shun sex until marriage, and parents would prefer us to stay innocent well into adulthood. However, abstinence is a practice that is not common for all teens. Although our parents and religion would prefer sexual acts to be saved for marriage, it's common that students and teens to be performing these sexual acts anyways. When we aren't educated about sex, we also do not learn how to practice sex in a safe way to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. I did learn about condoms in Biology, but not many of us know about contraceptive alternatives. Condoms can break. Young woman need to know about birth control pills and emergency contraceptive in case of an accident. I know many of my friends who are not aware of emergency contraceptive and in the incident of a pregnancy scare, they would not know all their options. It's important to understand how your bodies work and how to handle sex in a safe way because it can be physically dangerous if a man does not know how to handle a woman's body and the woman is too afraid to speak up about pain.
I appreciate in Brave New World, that children are advised to learn about their body parts that are often shunned from normal conversation. I think it is an important part of growing up to understand the difference between females and males and to understand their bodies and how every inch of their bodies work. We deserve a right to understand the bodies we were born with. I hope that as we advance into the future, that we may become more open to the topic of sex and to help educate our youth. My question for you all is, would you accept the practice of erotic play within children, or do you believe that we should not promote sexual activities within our youth?

6 comments:

  1. You make an amazing point with this. We aren't properly educated when it comes to sex. Even when we look down on those who make the mistakes and pay for it the rest of their lives by having to raise a child, it's glorified with shows like "Sixteen and Pregnant."

    I do think we should be able to feel comfortable discussing such a topic with the adults we look up to and not have to worry about feeling judged.

    However, I have to disagree with you and Huxley as to the age we are first exposed. Children as young as four or five aren't mentally prepared to take the information seriously. Exposure to such topics so early may bring ideas into their heads that their bodies aren't ready for. From what I've heard from friends and whatnot, children begin exploring around the age of eight or nine. Three years makes a huge difference in the mindset of a child. The ablility to comprehend right from wrong is more developed. I wouldn't exactly "promote" the practice, but I do believe it would help prevent a lot of misfortunes from occurring.

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  2. I absolutely agree that we cannot be ignorant about sexual education. However, I personally believe that "erotic play" in Brave New World is the best way to educate our youth. First, children simply do not need to be sexually educated that young. They don't have the maturity or knowledge to understand and comprehend that information. I would also consider "erotic play" in Brave New World the equivalent of not giving youth a sexual education and saying, "Go ahead and fool around and then learn from your experiences or mistakes."

    We have an obligation as educators and especially parents to educate our young on sex, puberty, and contraceptives. I believe parents are one of the most important and influential parts of sexual education. Educators and classes in school are definitely important, but I believe parents are the key to teaching their kids about sex. Both the parents and the children need to get past the awkwardness and intimidation of these tough questions.

    As for promoting sexual activism within our youth, I believe it should be similar to the policy our state has with religion; neither condoning it nor condemning it. I have personally taken Health, and the class was educated on puberty, contraceptives, STDs, and sex. However, we were told the truth blatantly; the only 100% way to prevent STDs and pregnancies was by abstinence. With that statement, they did not promote abstinence, but told us the hard truth about this sensitive topic, which I believe was the best possible way to handle sexual education.

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    1. Correction:

      However, I personally believe that "erotic play" in Brave New World is the best way to educate our youth.

      should read

      However, I personally believe that "erotic play" in Brave New World is NOT the best way to educate our youth.

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  3. I think that accepting erotic play is different than promoting sexual activity within our youth. Sure, if i did accept the erotic play, then i would be promoting sexual activity within our youth, but if i just wanted our youth to be more educated on the topic of sexual activity, it doesn't mean i want them messing around with each other when they're five. As to whether or not we should promote sexual activity, I think that is a difficult topic since there are major flaws to all sides of the argument, but ultimately I would agree with Stephen on neither promoting nor banning sexual activity within our youth.

    If we prohibit sexual activity within our youth, as curious children and rebellious teenagers, they are going to want to try it. It's as if sexual activity was an object, and all the adults in the world huddled around it and said "Nope, uh-uh, you can not see or touch this until you are given permission, and even then you have to use these 5 layers of protective gear, and, oh, don't forget the goggles!!!". Well now that you're trying so hard to keep this secret from all those kids/teenagers, all of them want to know what it is, and when they do know what is, they want to know what its like without the protective gear. So by trying to not promote it, we're promoting it.

    We shouldn't exactly push sexual activity either, because even though it is natural, its still dangerous when you're young, even if you know everything there is to know about sexual education. Like Stephen said, no contraceptive is 100% guaranteed, so there is always a risk. Plus, those children are too young. 5 and 6 year olds should not be thinking about sex. I think our system of learning about our bodies around the age 9 is fine, but i do agree that we should move sexual education (Health) down to the seventh grade level, and we should make it mandatory to happen that year. That way everyone is educated at the same, and as close to the correct time as we can get (since some kids may start thinking about trying it faster than others).

    I can see why people would think that if sex was a less mysterious thing, it wouldn't happen so often within our youth, but i think it'll take a lot more than sexual education classes and advice to stop teenage hormones and pregnancies.

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  4. I agree with your opinion about children needing to be educated about sex. There is most likely a better way to teach it without using erotic play, but Huxley is letting people give into their feelings and emotions. Also, adults are not all to eager to discuss a mature topic like sex to children and teenagers.
    We can offer kids classes and advice about sex, but once they learn it they are going to want to apply it. If you think about it, it's in our nature to be sexual active. Children and teenagers are curious and will want to see for themselves how it feels. The kids in Huxley's novel are practicing it in a safe environment where its encouraged and deemed appropriate in their society.
    Our youth often has to learn through experience rather than a classroom or talking with a trusted adult about sex. The problem is that adults think children and teenagers are "too young" and "not ready" to learn about sex. However, it would be beneficial to teach them while they are young so they have a better understanding of right and wrong when it comes to sex when they get older. Society frowns upon teenagers and children when they make the wrong decision when it comes to sex, but how can they expects us to make the right one when we have been failed to be educated to "protect our young minds"?
    Educating might not solve all our problems, but it could help.

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  5. I took the Health class last year, and I received much less education than I had expected too. Rather than telling the class about practicing safe sex, and how to stay healthy, the teacher promoted that,"no sex is safe sex." She went on to tell us that "the only way to ensure that you will not get pregnant, is to not have sex." Something here is wrong, the fact is that many teens will engage in sexual activity well before they are married. The proof is every where, it is even televised (16 and pregnant is a good example).

    I was so shocked that the children of Brave New World were able to have "erotic play", but then I realized that this civilization promotes sexual avtivity amongst its people, offereing up the phrase that "everyone belongs to everybody else." People are encouraged to take up countless partners, and for emotional connections between partners to be taken out of the equation altogether.

    I belive that religion has turned this subject into somewhat of a taboo. Today, people are still very intent on abstaining from sexual activity until marriage. We are taught that by engaging in this activity, we are no longer pure, or innocent. However, there are a few things that we must consider. Many people are putting off marriage to focus on school, thus they are expected to stay "pure" for a longer span of time. This is something I find very interesting in terms of religion. Religion has not changed, but today's society has. The same standards have been kept, as when the religion was first established. Consider that during this time, children were married off at the age of twelve.

    I think that in our society, we can be much smarter about the way we teach teens and kids about sex. There has to be a better way than scaring them. Eventually kids cannot be scared any more. The same way that they stop believing there is a monster inside of their closets, they will stop fearing the consequences of sex. Rather than installing fear into the minds of teens, they should be taught to understand this topic.


    Of course, I do not think that we should promote sexual activity within our youth. It is a complicated subject that I think requires a certain level of maturity, I think it is best to wait for an appropriate age to speak of these things. But we could be smarter about the way we teach kids about sex. Then they may choose what they want to do with their bodies. This way they are free to choose, and are equipped with the knowledge to be safe.

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